Book Review: Everyday Talk

I just recently read Everyday Talk by John A. Younts, published by Shepherd Press. John (Jay) Younts is the author of What About War?, In Touch with Paul Stewardship Series. An elder in the Associate Reformed Presbyterian (ARP) Church, John has taught on and studied issues related to biblical child rearing for over thirty years. John is a frequent speaker for parenting conferences, church seminars for parents, and youth meetings. He has been interviewed on radio stations around the country. He and his wife Ruth have five grown children and reside in South Carolina (I got this information from his website)

Everyday Talk: Talking Freely and Naturally About God with Your Children is basically a guidebook to speaking to and in front of your children in a way that glorifies God and blesses children. The purpose of the book is to encourage parents to talk about God in our everyday talk in accordance with Deuteronomy 6. He defines everyday talk as follows: “talk that happens in the unplanned moments. It happens in casual, unguarded moments. It happens when you are distracted or irritated and would rather not be talking at all.” (11) This kind of talk happens no matter what. But God wants your everyday talk to be about Him! “God wants you to talk about His world. God wants you to talk about what He does and how people respond to Him. He wants you to do this when you’re at home, when you are out and about, when you relax. He wants you to talk about Him with love and awe every day. He wants you to talk freely and naturally to your children about His commands…” (12) Sounds a lot like Deuteronomy 6!

This book was very helpful for me as a father of four. Younts doesn’t just leave it at the theoretical level. He goes in to detail about how to talk about some very important topics, such as the gospel, obedience, preparing for the teen years, the world, sex, and music. He explains how to use the “mundane” topics like the weather to bring out truths about God and His world.

He gives principles for parents to follow and not just dos and don’ts. One specific area where I was challenged was the way in which the truth should be presented. He used Proverbs 1:8-9 to show that we should present the truth as we would a precious piece of jewelry to a child. He explained that if we bought precious jewelry for a child we would not ball it up and throw it at them. We would put it in a special box, wrap it and present it as something special. We should do the same with the truth. Our words should be pleasant. The word of God is precious and therefore we should present it to them as such. Our words are to be spoken in love. Younts was very strong in this area and his words were used by the Lord to help me think about the way I talk to my children about the truth.

There were also several good examples found in the book (both Biblical and otherwise) to help bring these truths into focus.

This book is certainly consistent with some other very good parenting books. Books like Shepherding a Child’s Heart (Tedd Tripp), Age of Opportunity (Paul Tripp), Heart of Anger (Lou Priolo), and Teach Them Diligently (Lou Priolo). I think the contribution lies in the broad range of the topics that he addresses. He doesn’t deal extensively with disciplining and other parenting issues because that was not his goal. His goal was to give parents a theology of God-centered speaking with practical application. If anyone were to ask me what two parenting books I would recommend if they were only going to read two, I would recommend Shepherding a Child’s Heart (first) and Everyday Talk (second) in that order. Shepherding a Child’s Heart lays the foundation and gives the big picture for goals and procedures at each phase of a child’s development. Everyday Talk delves in to some of the more specific areas and challenges.

Far from giving the impression that parents are to just talk, Younts also explains that we must be very intent and serious listeners before we will have anything that is helpful to say. In addition, our lives are own lives as parents are to reflect that we have been changed by the wonderful truths that we are seeking to impart to our children. This is nonnegotiable. I highly recommend this book to anyone with children, grandchildren, nephews, nieces, or anyone who knows children that need the truth. I think that covers just about everyone.

The Lightlings: A Book Review

Publisher's Description: "In The Lightlings, Dr. R.C. Sproul weaves an allegorical tale that captures the essence of the biblical story of redemption. A race of tiny beings known as lightlings represent humanity as they pass through all the stages of the biblical drama—creation, fall, and redemption. In the end, children will understand why some people fear light more than darkness, but why they need never fear darkness again. Richly detailed illustrations by Justin Gerard will hold children’s interest, and discussion questions and Scripture references in the back will help parents guide children into the deeper meaning of the story."

RC Sproul has done it again. As he has done in other children's books like The King Without a Shadow and The Priest with Dirty Clothes, Dr. Sproul uses allegory to bring the beautiful truths of the gospel both down to the level of a child's understanding and up to a new level of profundity for all. Using the Biblical theme of darkness and light, this little children's book explains creation, the fall and its effects as well as the gospel and its reversing effects. I read this book to my three older children (7,4, and 3) and they all got it! They all understood that the Great King of Light was God, that the lightlings were Adam and Eve (and us by extension), and that the Son of the King of Light was Jesus. The questions at the end of the book are very helpful in making all of this clear to the children. The illustrations by Justin Gerard are excellent! One thing that is needed today is an understanding that the gospel is beautiful and that Christ is beautiful. Many people claim to be saved by the gospel but do not savor the beauty of the godhead in it. They merely want to be rescued by it, not to revel in it. This book is a a beutiful meditation on the redemption that we have in Christ. May God use this little book so that many will savor him more fully!

Book Review: The Expository Genius of John Calvin

I just finished reading The Expository Genius of John Calvin by Steven J. Lawson, published by Reformation Trust. It is a subseries of the larger Long Line of Godly Men Series, a five-volume series where Lawson surveys men throughout history (from 1400 BC to present) who have taught and defended the doctrines of grace. This book on John Calvin is part of the "Long Line" Profiles where Lawson will "focus in on the ways in which these [especially gifted] men discovered, honed, and empoyed their gifts, affording insights for God's servants today." Other such profiles in the future will include Luther, Whitefield, Edwards, Suprgeon, and more! This 142-page book is not intended to be a full blown biography of Calvin. Rather, Lawson delves into thirty-two distinctives of his pulpit ministry.

Are you a Calvinist? What an offensive question. What an offensive term. I have been told that you should not use that term because it is very offensive and that it scares people. It gives the impression that you claim allegiance to a man. You are of Calvin. There are many negative things that this man's name has provoked throughout history. Many picture a mean, crusty theologian who like systems more than scripture. As we see in this book, nothing could be farther from the truth. Rather, we see that Calvin's "system" came from years and years of verse by verse exposition of the scriptures. Like Luther before him, his system came from scripture - not the other way around.

Much like Piper's book on Edwards that I read a few years ago, I found this book to be very helpful in that it gave concrete examples of how to preach and different elements to included in sermons without exalting homoletics as the key to Biblical preaching. Biblical preaching must be Biblical. In other words, the meaning of the text is the text. These examples came mostly (if not exclusively) from his sermons on Micah and Galatians. I was again struck with the importance of being God-centered and blood earnest in the ministry. Again, much like when I read the Supremacy of God in Preaching (which surveyed Edwards) it amazed me that these men were not what many would consider outstanding speakers. They weren't the best orators of their respective days. But they were very serious about the task of preaching and they were hyper-theocentric (my word). This gave their words a weight which many today (and apperenty in their day) don't have. We are all too often lighthearted in the assembly. Listen to Lawson on this:

"The preacher must speak, Calvin said, "in a way that shows he is not pretending." This calvin did-he was blood-earnest in his preaching. Listen to him exhort his congregation:

Moreover, let us learn that God does not intend there to be churches as places for people to make merry and laugh in, as if comedy were being acted here. But there must be majesty in His Word, by which we may be moved and affected."

This book accomplishes what it sets out to accomplish, namely, to inspire men and show men how to "return to preaching that is Word-driven, God-exalting, Christ-centered, and Spirit-empowered." Lawson says the need of the day is this: "we need Calvins again to stand in pulpits and boldly proclaim the Word of God." You ask me if I am a Calvinist, I say I am not nearly as much of a Calvinist as I want to be.